4Cross Love Letter #27 Be loved 4 Who You Are

The Power of Being Seen: Embracing Your 4Cross Position in Love

Dear 4Cross Love Birds,

One of the greatest gifts in love is the feeling of truly being seen, accepted, and valued for who you are—without pretense, without masks, and without the fear of needing to change to be "enough." In a world where love often feels like a performance, the most authentic and fulfilling relationships are the ones where you can simply be yourself.

This is where your 4Cross position becomes a powerful force in your love life.

Your 4Cross position isn’t something to hide, suppress, or change—it’s something to embrace and share. Why? Because when you honor your position, you attract a love that values you fully—flaws, strengths, and everything in between.

🔹 What Does It Mean to Be Seen in Love?

Being seen in love means:
✅ Feeling understood without needing to explain yourself.
✅ Knowing that your quirks and natural tendencies are appreciated, not judged.
✅ Having a partner who supports your strengths rather than fearing them.
✅ Feeling safe to express your vulnerabilities without rejection.

But in order to be seen, you first have to see yourself clearly.

Are you trying to fit into a version of love that doesn’t match who you are?
Are you hiding parts of yourself out of fear that they’re ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’?
Are you willing to honor your 4Cross position and let love find you as you are?

The love that will last isn’t the one where you’re pretending—it’s the one where you’re fully, unapologetically you.

🔹 How Each 4Cross Position Needs to Be Seen in Love

🧭 Norths: The Visionaries & Leaders

Norths need a love that sees their ambition, drive, and ability to take charge—but also their need for emotional depth.
🔹 When a North is truly seen, their partner appreciates their strength without fearing it.
🔹 They don’t need to soften who they are—they just need a love that understands why they lead and also gives them space to be vulnerable.
Love isn’t about controlling—it’s about leading together.

🌅 Easts: The Creators & Free Spirits

Easts need a love that sees their energy, creativity, and love for adventure—but also their need for grounding.
🔹 When an East is truly seen, they are celebrated for their ideas, not told to “calm down” or “focus” more.
🔹 They don’t need to be more structured—they just need a love that thrives in the movement of their ideas and meets them in their joy.

Love isn’t about taming your spirit—it’s about finding someone who loves your wildness.

❤️ Souths: The Harmonizers & Givers

Souths need a love that sees their deep empathy, nurturing nature, and devotion—but also their need to be valued, not just relied on.
🔹 When a South is truly seen, their partner doesn’t just take their love—they give it back in equal measure.
🔹 They don’t need to be less emotional—they just need a love that respects the depth of their heart and prioritizes their well-being too.
Love isn’t about always giving—it’s about receiving love that feels just as safe and full.

⚖️ Wests: The Thinkers & Architects

Wests need a love that sees their precision, logic, and need for structure—but also their depth of feeling beneath the surface.
🔹 When a West is truly seen, their partner understands that just because they process emotions differently doesn’t mean they don’t feel deeply.
🔹 They don’t need to be more spontaneous—they just need a love that values their thoughtfulness and meets them in their steady, quiet love.
Love isn’t about always speaking—it’s about being understood even in the silence.

🔹 What Happens When You Hide Your Position?

When you hide your 4Cross position, you attract the wrong kind of love—the love that asks you to shrink, adjust, or become someone you’re not in order to be accepted.

A North who hides their leadership ends up with a partner who resents their ambition.
An East who hides their excitement ends up in a relationship that feels boring and stifling.
A South who hides their needs ends up in a one-sided relationship where they give everything and receive nothing.
A West who hides their depth ends up with a partner who doesn’t see the richness of their inner world.

The love you want will never find you if you’re pretending to be someone else.

🔹 The Love That Sees You Fully

When you own your 4Cross position, love becomes easier:
✅ You stop wasting time on connections that don’t fit.
✅ You attract partners who value your natural strengths.
✅ You build relationships that last because they’re based on truth, not illusion.

How to Start Being Seen in Love:

Stop apologizing for who you are. Your love style is not a flaw—it’s your blueprint for happiness.
Recognize the love that doesn’t make you shrink. If someone tries to change you, they are not your person.
Be upfront about your needs and strengths. Love is not about guessing games—it’s about clarity.
Trust that the right love will honor your position. You don’t need to settle—you just need to be patient for the love that fits.

💡 Your position is not an obstacle to love—it’s the key to finding the right one.

🔹 Final Thoughts: Love is About Being Seen, Not Fixed

💖 Norths, you are not too much. Your strength is a gift to the right person.
💖 Easts, you are not scattered. Your creativity is magic in the right relationship.
💖 Souths, you are not too emotional. Your depth is your power.
💖 Wests, you are not cold. Your loyalty is rare and irreplaceable.

The greatest love is the one where you are seen, chosen, and celebrated—exactly as you are.

Are you ready to embrace your 4Cross position and let love find you on your terms?

Until we meet again,

Shelly LaVigne - Love Investigator