Win the sport of LOVE

so you don’t lose the Game! ‍

You train your body.
You train your skills.
You train your mindset.

But nobody taught you how to train for the relationships that can either sharpen your performance… or sabotage it.

Because when your love life is unstable, your game pays for it.

You lose sleep.
You lose focus.
You lose emotional control.
You lose confidence.
You lose your edge.

And when that keeps happening, it is not just a relationship issue.

It’s a performance issue.

The 4Cross Playbook for Athletes gives you a system to understand how you are wired in love, how you respond under pressure, and how to stop relationship stress from taking you out mentally, emotionally, and competitively.

This is not about chasing romance.

This is about winning at love so you can stay clear, confident, and dangerous in competition.

I Coach Athletes in the sport of LOVE so your game doesn’t suffer.

Game | Set | Match

1- Learn how to play the game of love. There are rules, scoring, positions & strategy!

2- Win your first set by practicing 4Cross hOS. The only operating system for human understanding.

3- : Love with confidence, play with greatness!

I am a Hall of Fame and National Champion athlete. I know what it takes to win.

Make a free consult appointment so we can discuss working together on your game plan.

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What People Are Saying

  • 4Cross Blew My Mind!

    I always thought love was about personality, compatibility, or finding someone who “gets me,” but Shelly’s insights showed me that it’s so much deeper than that. Learning about the four biological positions—North, East, South, and West—helped me understand not only myself but also why some of my past relationships didn’t work out. For the first time, it all makes sense. -D. Peoples

  • You won't believe what you haven't been told about the Game of LOVE!

    "From self-awareness to navigating complex relationships, Shelly LaVigne offers a comprehensive guide that is both informative and easy to follow. Her insights into human behavior are profound.” -Sunny L.

  • Why isn't everyone learning this?

    “Shelly LaVigne has done it! Her profound insights into love and relationships, packed into a digestible framework, have helped me see my relationships in a new light.” -B. Butler

  • Revolutionary!

    I must say that Shelly LaVigne’s practical breakdown of love as a "game" with positions is something that we could label as revolutionary. -Papadiyaye

  • Kirkus Review

    LOVE IS NOT BLIND

    YOU ARE!

    by Shelly LaVigne

    A guide that blends insights and useful dating tips to help build fulfilling relationships.

    LaVigne’s self-help guide challenges the popular notion that love is blind and equips readers with tools to help them win the game of love.

    This book offers a refreshing perspective in the complexities of romantic relationships, presenting actionable advice that resonates with practicality and emotional depth. LaVigne’s use of her “4Cross Love Framework” is often compelling, as it provides an intriguing way to classify interpersonal dynamics. The book’s structure is easy to follow and offers clear and effective methods for strengthening connections and resolving conflicts. It categorizes people into four “positions”—North, East, South, and West—with each representing unique patterns of behavior, communication, and emotional need (“An East is the life of the party, always ready to try something new, crack a joke, or throw out a crazy idea that somehow sounds perfect in the moment”). By exploring these in depth, the author encourages readers to identify their own tendencies and interpret the dynamics of their interactions with others. As such, the system demystifies complex emotional patterns, presenting them in a relatable way. The 4Cross Love Checklist goes beyond theory to offer actionable strategies. LaVigne’s engaging, often humorous style ensures that readers feel supported, rather than overwhelmed. Her use of pop-culture references, as when she analyzes Netflix’s dating TV series Love is Blind, grounds her concepts in relatable, real-world scenarios, making them tangible and accessible. The 4Cross Love Checklist, for example, translates complex ideas (such as “Awareness” and “Attraction”) into practical steps that can be implemented immediately. Additionally, the emphasis on understanding both oneself and one’s partner encourages readers to view love as a shared journey rather than an individual endeavor.

    A guide that blends insights and useful dating tips to build fulfilling relationships.