4Cross Love Letter #22 Love Skills

Dear 4Cross Love Birds,

In a world that romanticizes love as a fleeting feeling, it’s easy to forget that love is actually a skill—one that requires practice, intention, and effort. Feelings come and go, but the skill of love builds the foundation for lasting connection.

1. Feelings Are Fleeting
   While chemistry and excitement spark connection, they’re not enough to sustain it. The real work of love lies in developing skills like empathy, communication, and understanding each other’s position. These are what keep love alive through life’s ups and downs.

2. Practice Brings Mastery
   No one is naturally perfect at love, but the more you practice, the more skilled you become. Whether it’s learning to navigate a North’s need for direction or a South’s desire for harmony, every effort strengthens your bond.

3. Commit to Growth Together
   Love is not just what you give—it’s how you grow together. When both partners view love as a skill to develop, it becomes a shared journey, not just an individual effort.

4. Small Wins Build Momentum
   Every time you practice a skill—whether it’s active listening, expressing gratitude, or resolving conflict effectively—you create small wins that build confidence and connection over time.

Love isn’t something you stumble into; it’s something you create, day by day.

Until we meet again,

Shelly LaVigne - Love Investigator