4Cross Love Letter #12 Are you on Offense or Defense?
Dear 4Cross Love Birds,
In a relationship, having one person on offense (North or East) and the other on defense (South or West) creates a powerful, complementary dynamic that fosters growth and stability. Here’s how it works:
1. Offense: The Visionary and Adventurer
Norths and Easts naturally take the lead, initiating new ideas, driving change, and seeking excitement.
Norths provide direction, certainty, and decisive action, setting clear goals for the relationship.
Easts bring spontaneity, creativity, and enthusiasm, keeping things lively and inspiring new experiences.
They infuse the relationship with forward momentum, sparking passion and opening up possibilities.
2. Defense: The Stabilizer and Evaluator
Souths and Wests focus on creating a secure and harmonious environment, ensuring that the relationship remains grounded.
Souths offer emotional support, empathy, and a sense of peace, creating a nurturing atmosphere where both partners can thrive.
Wests bring structure, reliability, and thoughtful evaluation, making sure that decisions are well-considered and that progress aligns with shared values.
They provide the safety and stability necessary to sustain and protect the bond over time.
The Benefits of an Offense-Defense Pairing
Complementary Strengths: One partner drives the relationship forward, while the other ensures it is maintained and nurtured.
Balanced Decision-Making: Offense pushes for growth and change, while defense evaluates risks and preserves what works.
Harmony in Differences: The natural tension between seeking novelty (offense) and maintaining security (defense) can create a dynamic balance that helps both partners grow together, adapting to each other’s needs.
These offense-defense pairings are what make relationships both exciting and enduring, as each partner fulfills a vital role, enhancing the relationship’s overall strength and harmony.
Having both partners on offense (North or East) or both on defense (South or West) can work, but it comes with challenges:
1. Two Offense Players (North & East):
The relationship may be exciting and full of new ideas, but it can lack stability and follow-through.
It can become chaotic, with both partners constantly seeking change and pushing boundaries, potentially causing burnout.
2. Two Defense Players (South & West):
The relationship is likely stable, comfortable, and predictable, but it may lack excitement and growth.
It can become stagnant, as both partners might avoid taking risks or initiating change, limiting new experiences.
Why One Offense + One Defense Works Best
Balanced Growth: One partner drives progress, while the other ensures stability.
Complementary Strengths: Offense brings new ideas and energy; defense provides structure and emotional support.
Adaptability: This pairing allows for both expansion and security, making the relationship more resilient and well-rounded.
Having one on offense and one on defense creates a dynamic, well-balanced relationship that’s both adventurous and secure, blending the best of both worlds.
Until we meet again,
Shelly LaVigne - Love Investigator
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